Becoming One - Jan 30th 2009 @ 09:28AM
by Matt Stone
Getting to know my wife was a gradual process.  We started dating in high school and dated a year, and then we were engaged for a year. This lifetime of living and loving started twenty-eight years ago with just one look; just one glance and I knew what I wanted.  The process of discovering each other’s talents, abilities and even weaknesses is still an ongoing process.  Opposites really do attract because we definitely have our own personalities and mannerisms; but oddly enough, these differences don’t divide us; they unite us. 

Watching two people meld into one is hard to see; it’s kind of like watching children grow.  As much time as I spent with our children, I never saw one of them grow an inch, but today they are full grown.  It was a natural process, and although I can’t identify a specific point of growth, I can’t deny the results. 

Melding into one takes communicating with one another.  Communication in a marriage is more than just talking about the decisions that affect the family.  My wife and I are at the point in our marriage where with just one glance or gentle caress, either one can tell the mood of the other.  Never a word has to be spoken.  In fact I’d say that I’m at the point that when my wife is sleeping, I can gently place my hand on the small of her back or shoulder and know the soundness of her rest.  I continually look for the uniqueness in her, and I’m never disappointed.  There is a life time of learning in that woman when I take the time to listen and observe.  If after a period of time in a marriage, you can’t begin to pick up on your spouse's subtle nuances, you’re not melding; you’re just coexisting.

Land is the same way.  If all you do live on the land, work the land, or worse than that, take from the land, you’re just coexisting with the land at best, never melding.  Growing to love and appreciate the land is a natural process. It just takes a little time to get to know each other.  If we take the time to listen to her, she will speak to us and we can build a relationship with her.  I’m almost at the point in my life when I’m in the outdoors, I can almost hear her speak to me. She’s like my wife; she sends me subtle messages and lets me know when she’s being properly cared for or neglected.  If you’re not becoming one with the land, I’d encourage you to take partial ownership of her and treat her with the respect she deserves.  I’d be willing to bet she’ll respond in kind.

Naturally Yours,    

Matt Stone
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           Natural Instint
           THANK YOU
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           The Thinker
           The Game Plan
           Natural Man
           My Shadow
           Mossy State of Mind
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           Emerald Sea
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           Buying Made Simple
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           Around The Bend
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